We often think that psychology is best left to psychologists, and that if our lives and our relationships with others are messed up, we’d better see a psychologist to address that. Some people believe that there is a stigma attached to seeing a psychologist, or that we can not afford this luxury, we do not want to go. We continue on the right path, we are always dissatisfied with what we believe is a messed up existing.
Very often, these situations are fixable, all on our own. What is the secret? Apply the simple concept of positive psychology to your life and your relationships with others. It is simply a matter of changing gears with your emotional response and thinking before you speak. Let’s see how easy and rewarding this strategy of self-help can be.
Those who operate on a negative attitude are using self defeating strategy. It’s the old story of the glass being a half full or half empty. A negative attitude always produces a negative result as well as negative outlook on life. Positive Psychology is a technique in which you are looking for the best result, giving yourself and others the benefit of the doubt. If you expect the worst, you’ll usually find it.
See an example of the concept of positive psychology. Your child drops a platter of fancy hors d ‘oeuvres, tripping over the dog lying on the kitchen floor. You spent all day creating these fancy treats. With a negative psychology, you might come Unglued, punish your child for clumsiness, followed by a statement that your party is now in ruins.
What’s the resul ? Your child feels bad and guilty, may begin crying or may resent you. You are in a big tizzy. Over what? Your guests will still arrive and presumably you pull yourself together and put on a good face. You’ll pull out a bag of chips, and maybe a box store-bought chicken wings from the freezer and hastily whip up some dip. The party is happening and everyone lives through this disaster.
Now we will look and see how the application of positive psychology can create an entirely different result. Your child still trips over the dog,your appoeetizers are history. You tell your child not to worry about it. That’s it, too bad. We will again. Put this dog out. Your child is not crying or angry. Replace your masterpiece appetizers as possible. When your guests arrive, tell them why Rover is in the doghouse – to make a joke of it. Believe me, they laugh too. Been there, done that.
You can see that the use of positive psychology is easy and the result is transformed into a time when there is no conflict or unhappiness. Is not that what we all want? Try it, you’ll like it!